Mail conversations between LifeSail and me since Guppy’s stranding
30th March 2019
Getting some Vitamin Sea
13th May 2019
I have heard that people go through big changes about every 7 years in their lives. I don’t know if that’s true but it did kind of go like for me. Around the age of 8 I decided one day I wanted to sail around the world and with 14 I left. At 21 I realised I had married someone with whom I didn’t share the same goals and dreams in life.
But I had given a promise to love and to hold forever, and I wanted to find compromises and a way to keep going. However after trying very hard every day to make our marriage work I realised it actually had been years since I had followed my own dreams. With a broken heart I chose to leave and find myself again.
Maybe the sad state of mind I was in for a while made me decide to loan out Guppy. Hoping to have her be used for a good goal and giving me time to find my feet again, or so I thought..
It rather seemed I was falling from one disaster into the next when Guppy was destroyed by LifeSail in August 2018, I felt so very destroyed and hopeless. Losing the one thing that I had poured my heart and soul into and thought I had loaned out into safe hands. The consequences of Guppy’s stranding are following me to this day as I fight to make things right. But of course live goes on, giving up does not exist in my dictionary 😉 I kept going and poured all my focus and energy into my new project the” Laura Dekker World Sailing Foundation” which led me to Europe often for meetings.
While I was there in 2017 I was invited for a sail race in the Netherlands called the ”singlehanded”
The event organisers gave me the choice to sail on a Waarschip 900 or a Mini 6.50. A Mini 6.50 is a very unsuitable boat for that race as it’s made for long distance ocean racing and not a round the buoy racing boat. But the mini 6.50 is kind of rare race boat and I saw it as a great opportunity to sail on one so of course I choose the mini. Sander who build and owns the boat didn’t count on it that I would really choose to borrow his unsuitable boat and had said it as more of a joke. It came as a big a shock. But if you say A you also have to say B. And this counted for the both of us.
I was a little nervous to get the borrowed race boat back in one piece after the race. This boat has a canting keel, way too much sail, daggerboards, running backstays which really can’t be forgotten – it’s far from easy to sail. But also he was nervous to loan out the boat from which he had been dreaming and working on since childhood. We sailed the boat together to the starting point of the race. It turned out to be a beautiful race and Sander and I quickly became very good friends. Sander and I grew up sailing the same boat, a mirror, which in the Netherlands is a very unknown boat, a good conversation starter 😉 It can be hard to find the right person to sail with. But we have the same way of doing things on board and while sailing we just automatically know what to do without much communication needed.
I always thought two very stubborn and determined people don’t fit together, but we seem to fill each other in and stimulate each other to follow our dreams. Working on them together is fun!
It seemed clear to everyone strait away that we belonged together, but somehow we hadn’t really seen or admitted that to ourselves yet. However we stayed in close contact and it didn’t take very long before we both traveled to each other and realised we are much happier together. It’s been so much fun to sail together, work on the Guppy xl project, talk and build up my life again, which since a short while Includes being a mom!
I have always really wanted kids and couldn’t be happier with my beautiful baby boy!
Of course it’s all very new being parents and we’re both learning as we go, but I think most of us do 😉
My grandma gave me a great book called: Die andere moeders doen ook maar wat – which is translated from Dutch: ”The other mums are also only doing something”
I’m loving it, almost every moment of it. Sailing and watch keeping has certainly been good preparation for getting out of bed every few hours 😉
Our little boy is called Tim, he has been sailing with us a lot already and will gain some extra miles again this month as we will do a delivery of over 3000nm.
Here is a photo of us, I hesitated a long time to post all this to my blog as I like to keep private life somewhat,.. private 😉 But then I realised there’s a lot of people very curious as to what I have been up to and how could I keep withholding the joy of finding new love and bringing a new little human into this world :-).
Much love,
Laura
